Birth doula support testimonial: (LC March 2019)
“Having Hilary as our doula was like having a second mum, but one who had extensive knowledge of pregnancy and birth!
Having suffered trauma in my first birth and mental health problems following it, it was important to me to have support leading up to, during and after the birth, someone who wasn’t just going to say ‘well they know best’ and Hilary provided just that. She supported me to step away from the emotion of the moment and make informed decisions that were best for me, even when things weren’t going to plan. During the birth she held the birth space (despite having her foot in a cast!) and added to the feeling of it being a casual every day yet magical event. She was always quietly listening ensuring my birth preferences were adhered to. I had the most incredible, intense and quick labour, and when the going got tough she reminded me to breath, when the going got really tough and I shouted ‘get him out’ she told me ‘he is out! His head is out, feel!’ which was an unforgettable moment.
Hilarys support didn’t stop there; her photos and after birth visit allowed me to process and remember the birth fully and our photos I will forever treasure; when breastfeeding was tough she was only a message away, and when I was tired and hungry she gave me the most delicious push cake!
Hilary’s support goes above and beyond because she truely loves women and I’m proud to now call her a friend.”
Birth Reflection Service Testimonial “Four years after the birth of my first daughter and pregnant with my second, I realised I was suffering delayed trauma from my first labour. Being able to access Hilary’s birth reflection service was invaluable in helping me work through this. She gave me the time and space to talk through the experience in detail, validating my thoughts and feelings. Hilary was able to impart knowledge to help me understand what had happened and empowered me to positively prepare for my next birth. My second daughter is now 2 months old and I was able to enter my second labour with confidence and positivity, which made it a much more enjoyable experience! I would highly recommend that anyone who has unresolved feelings from a previous birth experience should take up Hilary’s birth reflection service, the care and support she offers is simply wonderful!” K (May 2018)
“What would you say to other parents considering having a doula?” E and D April 2018 “I would wholeheartedly recommend it – I think too many people underestimate what a big deal birth is and how important it is to strive for the best possible outcome. It can have such a huge impact if you’re not properly prepared and having a doula has definitely helped us to feel confident and ready for anything. D would strongly advise any father who is too proud to consider a doula to leave those feelings behind!”
A (birth) November 2017 “Hilary’s empathy and understanding of the birth process is deep and grounded in research. Her knowledge extends far beyond evidence based research, her ability to hold space and assist in exploring the emotional challenges pregnancy and birth brings is a true gift. An earthly angel, Hilary gave us so much more than support and guidance throughout the process. I was blessed to have her present.”
E (birth) November 2017 “Hilary provided lots of care during labour – making sure I was fed and watered, comfort measures like cool flannels etc. Helped to create the atmosphere we wanted with personal touches like battery operated tea lights! She also kept tabs on everything the midwives said and made sure we were happy with any decisions we had to make. The single most valuable thing for me though was the coaching that she gave me once my contractions threatened to get the better of me, reminding me to BREATHE!!!!! It was so simple but all I needed to help me keep control at the time. She also took some amazing photos of the birth that we totally weren’t expecting and will treasure forever.”
A (birth) February 2017 “The support that Hilary gave to our family during the momentous time of having a new baby was priceless. She seemed to effortlessly know what we needed from her and was wonderful to have as a ‘go to’ for advice during pregnancy. She is very knowledgeable about anything and everything you might need. We would definitely recommend using her doula services…Thank you Hilary!”
A (birth) January 2017 “We chose to have a Doula following hearing recommendations for Hilary from several people who had worked with her or hired her. I was keen to have a home birth, having had a poor experience of aftercare on the ward last time round, but was concerned that there may be opposition to it due to me having a pre-existing medical condition. Hiring a Doula was something that we were keen to do so that we could feel empowered to push forward our dreams for the perfect home birth; hiring a Doula also meant that should anything happen there would be an impartial third party to help us step back and make the RIGHT choice, not one based on medical protocol or my own stubbornness! As it happened we did in fact have the perfect home birth; Hilary’s presence was fundamental to that and helped to create a calm atmosphere where our wishes were respected. 2 months later our beautiful baby girl is as chilled out as the day she was born – I truly believe that is due to the relaxed atmosphere she came into. We are truly blessed to have had Hilary share such a precious moment with us, and without a doubt would recommend her to anyone thinking of hiring a Doula – or indeed those that have not yet considered it!”
Midwife (home birth) October 2016 “…what a difference it made to have you there. I was able to concentrate on safely facilitating the birth whilst you were able to give J the reassurance and encouragement she needed. I’m sure it made a real difference to J to have a trusted presence with her. It was really positive to be able to work as a team…I will certainly recommend your service Hilary. How great to have that in our local area!”
J and J October (birth) November 2016 “I sensed Hilary was the right person to guide me, and guide me she did, over bumps, deep deep dark moments and out through the other side to enable me to enjoy the last few weeks of my pregnancy and ultimately to trust and believe in my own ability to birth my baby – in spectacular fashion! Hilary is smart, funny and very knowledgeable about birth and all things connected to pregnancy, birth and the postpartum period.”
“Having Hilary supporting us over this pregnancy has been amazing because she has helped us overcome some tough memories of J’s last labour and look at the positives for this one.”
E and A (birth) December 2015 “It’s difficult to find experienced, knowledgeable support but a doula provides this…As a mother herself, Hilary was able to understand so much of what I was feeling…She helped me be the mother I needed to be after a traumatic first birth and this experience has healed many wounds. I did it!”
R and A (birth) July 2015 “Hilary is thorough, very caring, gentle, knowledgeable and supportive. She listened to exactly what we wanted for the birth of our daughter and helped to make it a reality. We really felt cared for and nurtured by Hilary from 3 weeks before the birth and in the weeks after…It really helped to put my husband’s mind at rest to have the extra support…We will miss her!”
E and D (birth) December 2014 “Hilary is a very caring and nurturing person who gets on brilliantly with other people. She had the ability to be firm and assertive (to protect our wishes) but without creating conflict. She is extremely knowledgeable about birth, and is obviously passionate about her doula-ing…I loved the way Hilary worked as a team with D to look after me during labour, and the positivity and encouragement she provided was invaluable.”